5 Tips for Dating Mindfully

dating mindfullyPIN IT!Dating is hard.

It’s a lot of work to meet someone, strike up a conversation, someone asks the other on a date, you go on a date, maybe a couple of dates, then it’s over. And you have to start the process over again.

Humans are emotional beings. Our thoughts and feelings determine our decisions. That is why it is important that we be mindful about our emotions and how those emotions translate into thoughts and actions.

Here are 5 tips to date mindfully:

Know Yourself

Understand how you react to your emotions. To improve mindful living (including mindful dating), you must first know and understand how your emotions translate into thoughts and actions. Everyone reacts differently to different situations. Knowing yourself to the fullest extent will help you to realize, and potentially change, how you react to certain situations. The better you know yourself, the more you know about what you want and need from a partner. A great relationship begins with you.

Practice Yoga Together

Practicing yoga with your partner will not only help an individual mindfulness practice but will also help to include mindfulness in your relationship. Practicing yoga together will also strengthen your relationship as it involves trust, communication, and fun- all things needed for a healthy relationship. And it’s a great date night!


I’m not talking about “Hi. How was your day?” communication, I’m talking real communication. “How are you feeling right now?”, “What can I do to help/make you feel better?”, “What do you need from me right now?”, “Describe your thought process and what you are thinking”. Making the effort to hold “real” conversations will not only help to improve your personal mindful practice but will help to build a strong foundation for your relationship.

Don’t Move Too Fast

A new relationship can be a lot of fun and super exciting. As a result, we tend to move too quickly, which can lead to a crash and burn. Take your time to really get to know your partner and to make sure that you are what they need and they are what you need.

That said, nobody can tell you what is “too fast” for you and your partner. Relationships move at a different, comfortable pace for different couples. Know what is right for you and your partner and stick to it.


Take the time to reflect on your dates- what did you like about the person, what did you dislike, could you really see yourself with this person, what do you want to know about this person that you did not learn on your date? Also, take the time to think back on the date itself- how did the person treat others (i.e. the waitress), how did they treat you, did they talk over you or always try to “one up” you in conversation, reflect on their actions as actions speak louder than words.

Taking the time to reflect on your dates and the people who are dating will help to ensure that you are making conscious, mindful decisions about whether to see the person again.

Be Careful About the Online Dating Time-Trap

A dating app or website is designed to keep you on their webpage for hours on end. This can really disrupt your mindfulness practice and cause you to make more rash decisions when it comes to dating. It’s like opening a bag of chips and realizing a few minutes later that they are all gone.

To help reduce the amount of time you spend on the app or website, get real about what you want to get out of the app or website- a date? A lot of dates? The one? Be clear on what your negotiables and non-negotiables are when it comes to dating. Also, setting a timer for yourself will help you to reduce the amount of time spent in one sitting on the website or app.

Whatever you dating practice, be sure to include mindfulness. Being present will help you to be sure that you are ready to date, as well as help you to reconnect and refocus. It is important that we take the time to take care of ourselves during this emotional process to improve our overall emotional health.

Megan holds a Bachelor of Arts, a Master of Education and is a certified yoga and mindfulness instructor for both children and adults. Megan is the founder of Learning Lotuses, a website and blog aimed at encouraging social-emotional well-being in education using the practices of yoga and mindfulness. 

  • Amber Myers

    I’m married, but when I was dating I was careful. I didn’t want to rush into things. My now husband and I did a lot together–no yoga though, we’d just get the giggles.

  • Jen Temcio

    I had no idea that the websites were designed to keep you on…but that is interesting because I had a friend who quit dating sites because they took up so much of his time before he even knew it. That is why!!

  • Claudia Krusch

    I have a few friends that are dating and I see how hard it is. It is so different from when I was dating. I love to Practice yoga with my partner and we both really enjoy it.

  • GiGi Eats

    If you are not a communicator… Prepare for a life of failed relationships! Ha! But seriously – communication is hands down THE MOST IMPORTANT factor in a relationship. EVER. Second being TRUST!

  • Patricia-Ann Que

    ah the meet market and the dating world! having your ‘me’ time and being apart sometimes help a lot even during the dating phase, reminds you of who u really are ppl in love tends to be what their partner wants them to be yay!

  • Denay DeGuzman

    These are all fabulous tips to keep in mind. Communication is key, but also managing expectations and being careful when meeting up with someone for the first time. When my daughters were dating I had them text me details about the person, where they were heading off to, etc. – just in case. You can never be too careful.

  • Kiwi

    Great dating tips. I am on a dating temp hiatus for now but I will keep these in mind when I date a special guy again.

  • Emman Damian

    It’s really a tricky stage in life. i have never been good in dating to be honest.

  • ingrid rizzolo

    Knowing yourself is good advice for anyone dating or considering dating. If you do not know and understand yourself and what you want then you won’t know what to look for in a date.

  • gingermommy

    It really is a tricky stage to navigate through life. Dating can be really incredibly daunting.

  • Heraa Farooq

    Very interesting article. I have never been good at dating always end up making people run away. I would try to give your tips a thought.

  • Sam

    Communication is definitely key! Without it a relationship is sure to fail!

  • Kitty

    Well these are some great tips :)… dating was not that bad with my hubby 😀

  • KatWalkSF

    Dating is so hard…but I love these tips.

  • Chuck

    Those are great tips. Communication is still the best thing to do in this stage

  • Chuck

    Those are great tips. Communication is still the best thing to do in this stage. Awesome!

  • kim

    Love these tips and I so agree with them!