Not Everyone You Lose is a Loss

Sometimes friendships are great and are meant to last years and other times they’re not. Over the last 6 months I’ve come to realize that one of my friendships wasn’t meant to last and it wasn’t because there was a fight or anything, it was because we were meant to lead different kinds of lives. Our friendship was good but it was never great. I always had this inkling in the back of my head that constantly told me to never really open up to this person and honestly, I’m glad I listened. Something just didn’t feel just right. It was full of negativity and just signs that it was time for it to end for me.

not everyone you lose is a lossSo last night after a week long ordeal, they took back a present they gifted my oldest son for Christmas and my husband and I agreed it was time to cut ties. Things didn’t have to end the way that it did and maybe the friendship could have worked out in a different way but one thing is for certain, we lead very different lifestyles and last night’s behavior on their part was the final flag I needed to let it all go. I’m not angry or sad. Honestly, I feel relieved. I’ve learned that not everyone you lose is a loss. 

Have you ever had to cut ties with someone and end a friendship? How did you go about it? Was it hard?



  1. robin masshole mommy
    April 26, 2016 / 5:50 pm

    Yes and it was so refreshing not to have to be around her negativity anymore. I wonder why I didn’t do it sooner 🙂

  2. April 26, 2016 / 5:52 pm

    Yes I have had to end a friendship and it was not easy. I know look back and realize it was for the good.

  3. April 27, 2016 / 1:28 am

    Yes a few times, I just do not need the added stress in my life!

  4. April 27, 2016 / 2:56 am

    You are so right about this. Sometimes, it’s for the better.

  5. Elizabeth O.
    April 27, 2016 / 3:07 am

    I believe in this too, there are certain people in your life that enter to just teach you a valuable lesson, they are not meant to last. Some would even make you feel like you’re in a toxic relationship. I’m glad you finally cut ties with this person. It’s just weird what they did though, I never take back presents.

    • Jess
      April 27, 2016 / 4:52 pm

      Yeah, I was astounded that they would do that to a child. He was involved in no way but I suppose it just shows their character in the long run.

  6. April 27, 2016 / 6:22 pm

    This is so true. There are some people in your life that can only brings negative things

  7. April 27, 2016 / 11:28 pm

    This is so right! Ive had to end a couple of long relationships and even thou it hurt im still a better person today.

  8. Rosey
    April 29, 2016 / 1:25 am

    I know that relief. I’ve experienced it fairly recently too, and it was a loss, but it still ended up being very nice.

  9. Laquinda
    April 29, 2016 / 1:50 am

    I love the topic of this post. I’ve been going through a similar process of letting go of a “friend.” Certain friendships are only meant to last a season.

  10. April 29, 2016 / 2:44 am

    I would say ending a friendship is definitely not going to be easy & might be a bit painful too. But if it brings some good changes & reduces some sort of stress, it is better to stay away from such people.

  11. April 29, 2016 / 6:15 am

    People come into your life for a reason. Sometimes they are meant to stay only for a little while and to teach us a hard lesson.
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  12. April 30, 2016 / 10:41 am

    I have to end friendship with somebody who only wants you when she needs something from you.

  13. Melissa Bernardo
    May 1, 2016 / 2:26 am

    I totally agree with this! Thanks for sharing!

  14. May 3, 2016 / 3:07 am

    Yes I have had to end a relationship in bad terms. I now look back and understand it was for the good!

  15. May 3, 2016 / 9:46 am

    Negativity is not good to have in friendships especially if you already have your own struggles to deal with. I have had to let go of some friends in the past. Some were easier than others to let go.

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